I was given the opportunity to review Raising Real Men, written by Hal and Melanie Young, and while I was disappointed with some of the book, I was impressed so much with chapter five, that I would recommend that you purchase it.
For this review I will be highlighting chapter five-Who’s In Charge Here? This is the place where I personally have the most failings. It also reminds me in a non-direct way about my own submission to my husband. All of our children, not just my boys, need to see this Biblical chain of command at work in my home.
There were quite a few light bulb moments in this chapter for me, answers to the how of dealing with battles of will and attitudes that disappoint.
Asking these questions-what did you do wrong? What should you have done? In calm manner is something not only Biblical, but easy to remember and easy to follow. Requiring the Biblical language of “please forgive me” encourages heart work.
Some of my favorite quotes from this chapter, which is heavily highlighted are-
“Learn to obey before you learn to lead.”
“Our sons, too, need to learn obedience. When they are accustomed to respect their parents’ instructions and wishes, they are better prepared to respect and obey the Lord.”
“When you honor your parents, you're obeying God.
Another important lesson for me was about discipline. We have all heard the arguments from parents who don't believe in discipline. They feel that the parent is imposing, wrongly, their will onto the child.
“What they actually do is elevate the child’s autonomy to the level of those who are responsible to God for him, harming both the parent and the child.”
Perhaps instead of wondering what is wrong with the youth today, we need to ask what happened to the Biblical parenting of yesterday? Are you ready to break that cycle? I know I am.
* * * I was provided a copy of this book as a member of the Timberdoodle Blogger review team, in exchange for an honest review. All opinions are my own. * * *
Posts
.png)
